When we look at what is happening in the world, do we realise how small our problems are in comparison to a refugee who has to sleep in the mud or freezing weather? What about those who lost their homes overnight because of a natural disaster? The persons who are told by their doctors that their tumour is malignant? When we compare ourselves to majority of the world, what do we have to complain about?
We all have our own trigger points which can make us lose our temper.
Sometimes, a person can appear calm and suddenly start shouting just because the waiter mixed up his order. Or a parent starts screaming at his child for a small mistake just because he had a bad day at work.
On the authority of Abu Hurayrah (RA), who said that the Messenger of Allah (SAW) said: The gates of Paradise will be opened on Mondays and on Thursdays, and every servant [of Allah] who associates nothing with Allah will be forgiven, except for the man who has a grudge against his brother. [About them] it will be said: Delay these two until they are reconciled; delay these two until they are reconciled. It was related by Muslim (also by Malik and Abu Dawud).
So how come some with hijab, beard, niqab and other cosmetic components of Islam have bad manners or behave in ways that are contrary to the noble values of Islam? This is because they do not know the reality of their journeys. Their behaviours clash with true Islamic behaviour, and thus their appearance is just window dressing to a dirty or empty shop.
Allah wants us to surrender with complete pleasure, and believe that embedded our lives is goodness which we cannot comprehend. This will also lead us to the unconditional acceptance to whatever is occurring. If we practise this and control our rebellion, this will lead us to acquire qualities such as contentment, reliance on Allah, trust in Allah, poverty to Allah, iman and yaqeen. The journey of iman will lead us to love Allah, and we would endeavour to secure and strengthen that love.