Reported by Jabir bin `Abdullah (RA): The Messenger of Allah (SAW) said, "The dearest and the closest of you to me on the Day of Resurrection will be those who are the best in behaviour; and the most hateful and the farthest from me on the Day of Resurrection will be the talkative and the most pretentious and the most rhetorical.'' [At-Tirmidhi].
Rasulullah SAW asked us to hurry up with the good deeds, and this has been reported numerous times with variations:
Aswad ibn Asram (RA) once asked Rasulullah (SAW) for advice. Rasulullah (SAW) asked him to hold tight with his hand. If unable, then to hold his tongue. If unable, not to spread his hand and his tongue except with goodness, which in other words means to be careful of what he does and says.
Narrated Abu Musa Al-Ash'ari: that the Prophet (SAW) was asked:"Which of the Muslims is most virtuous?" He said: "The one from (the harm of) whose tongue and hand (other) Muslims are safe." (Tirmidhi)
To love someone we have to serve. Why do we keep falling during this journey today? It is because we are stubbornly clinging on to what we want, and therefore become slaves to our yearnings, be it money, food, status, physical relationships, or showing off. Once the desire intensifies, we would do anything to fulfil that desire. We have the illusion of freedom, but we are actually imprisoned and enslaved by our own obsession. We cannot serve because we do not care about anyone other than ourselves.
Once Allah bestows you with His quality, you will be closer to Allah. With this closeness, Allah will be for you every step of the way. He will guard, love you and protect you.